Weekendz

Now that it's Friday I can talk about last weekend because PROCRASTINATION.

I think I'm finally beginning to feel more at home here. Several awesome things happened and I shall relate them in the most succinct way possible as I want to remember them all. 

Friday: After work I met up with Chris and we had a sleep over! We watched the Wet Hot American Summer re-boot and I shamelessly mooched his wifi to check my social media platforms. An activity I am as addicted to as every millennial cliche alludes.

Saturday: Woke up after a restful night of sleep, dog-free as I hoped it would be. I really like Candace's dog but not as much as he likes me. He likes to come and sleep at my feet, something which severely hinders my leg room on the couch I sleep on. I was happy to be able to stretch out, and it made a difference in my day.

Later I went with Chris to the MET and wandered around trying to find Micaela's favorite painting. I never found it, but one of the galleries was closed and I think that's where it may have been. I fully intend to go back and track it down. I did however stumble into a chinese fashion exhibit which was straight up amazing. Seriously beautiful in a way that made me happy to be a woman (not that I could ever afford/fit those garments). After, I found the library and sat in some quiet and wrote letters to my friends around the country. That was sooooo fun and I was very happy to do it. I'm going to need to buy more stationery soon, something I am quite happy about.

On the way home I got lost in a ritzy neighborhood and wandered into a little office supply/luggage shop. I bought some colorful pens and chatted with the cashier. She like many others told me she "never would have thought I spoke Spanish/wasn't white." Then I was really hungry all of the sudden and stopped into this semi-fancy deli for a snack. I really wanted a chocolate chip cookie but they all had walnuts and I'm allergic. So I opted for petite-fours (I don't know who to spell french words). The only other time I have had these was at the holiday party for the California Historical Society. Those were much better as the ones I had seemed as though they had been chilling in the fridge for a while. Either way, it did the trick and I found my way back to the subway and back to Brooklyn.

When I got there I checked the mailbox and saw that my Netflix had arrived. It was Flower Drum Song which is set in Chinatown, San Francisco so I continued my Chinese theme for the day. Flower Drum Song is a Roger's and Hammerstein musical so there were some fantastic songs/dance numbers. There were some heavy handed racist stereotypes but that goes along with every old movie. It was a good way to end my night.

Sunday: I woke up with Candace and we shuffled around to start our day. Chris had invited me to a beach party so I was getting ready to do that and Candace was meeting up with some friends in Manhattan. I walked out the door about 45 min after I woke up into a pleasantly warm and not so fucking hot day (finally!). I walked to the subway and chatted up my parents on the phone telling them in detail about my walk. I miss them a lot, and my dog Sprocket who apparently was searching the house for the source of my voice. I got on the train and semi-successfully found my way to Brighton Beach, taking a slight detour to Coney Island. I want to go to Coney Island at some point but it looks like a more rundown Santa Cruz Boardwalk so I'm in no rush. When I got to the beach I met so many people. I think I met 6 new people, and I saw Denise and her niece who had just come back from visiting California.

We chilled at the beach for a few hours and went swimming before going to Jane's apartment (the person who was throwing the party). Actually, before we went to the apartment we stopped by a Russian grocery store that was called "Gourmanov," like "Romanov" but gourmet, kind of a side note but it tickled me so. When we got to the apartment we got settled in and started eating and drinking, more people arrived and I got to look into the museum/art world of New York. I don't quite know what to think of it. People talked about what they did but also about how to help one another and support the art of their friends. That was incredibly refreshing and I hope to make good on an offer to tour the bookshops of Brooklyn and Manhattan that carry zines!! After a while I left to meet up with Candace in Manhattan.

I met Candace in Little Italy and we had dinner. Then we went to the Annual Dick Kareoke at some bar on Houston. Which is apparently pronounced "How-ston" not "Hue-ston" like in Tejas, because English. I walked in at the Disney Dick Power Hour which was all Disney songs with the word "Dick" inserted into it. Get it? Inserted? You get it. The highlights were both from Aladdin with "A whole new dick" and "You ain't never had a dick like me," both were definitely well rehearsed and even included dancing! Basically it's the best bar I've been to in New York, out of 3, but still.

The new weekend is here, and this Friday is a payday! I plan to go to Yoga (which deserves its own post), watch Netflix, go grocery shopping, do laundry and go to the bank! This week has been incredibly busy and full of food so I will have to do an entry about that. Now that I have access to the Pizza place wifi I can (theoretically) update more frequently.

XO

Developments

Excellent news! The pizza place below Candac's house has opened! I have eaten here (where I am currently) twice and I have the wi-fi password.

YESSSSSSSS

Week Sauce

What an eventful week.

Candace went out of town last Friday and stayed extra long to watch and assist her nephews' birth. She showed me pictures and I gotta say, I don't know how I would deal with a person giving birth right in front of me, but then I'm not Candace. She just got back yesterday (Thursday), but her friends Lili, Jeff and their baby Kinan have been staying at the apartment since Tuesday morning.


I'm glad I wasn't alone too many nights in a row. I get really scared being alone at night, and to be quite honest I prefer to share a bed. I was sleeping in the living room on the couch for part of that time (to avoid letting the dog onto the freshly laundered sheets of the bed) and I kept having this horrible feeling that I would be abducted by aliens. Or, that I would look out the window and see a little alien staring in at me, as my bestie Micaela described seeing once upon a time. Basically, I'm really afraid of abduction - alien or otherwise. I told Candace about it and she asked me why I even thought about that? Good question. I have no idea and I wish I wouldn't but I have unfounded paranoia. Or do I?

Anyway, what I came to realize is that I should look for a shared house with roommates. I really hate to live alone as I am terrified of being abducted and I would like to cut my odds in half (50/50). I think it would also be a good way to make some friends and get to know New Yorkers, or more than likely, other transplants. I think I'm ready to start making friends and getting to know the city. My plan is to find places online where there are a lot of rentals, then go visit the neighborhoods and see if I would like them. I can pretend I live there, cant I?

I'm so hungry all of the sudden, wtf?

Candace asked me if I'd like to stay in Redhook and I think yes, but it's the only part of Brooklyn I've seen. Also, most people I've talked to say that Redhook is the least Brooklyn-ey place in Brooklyn. I'd like to know what they're talking about. I'd also like to find a place with a 24 hour laundry near by. I had to walk to one a few blocks away and later that night there was a drive by shooting that injured 5 people right where I had been walking. Maybe like an hour and half later. I still would really like to get my library card too.

There's a newspaper here that tells you about all the free stuff in New York. I'd like to take advantage of that stuff and now that Candace is back and can take care of her dog, I think it's a good time to give it a shot.

Laterz.

Subway, not just for sandwiches

This morning was an exceptionally packed subway day. I don't know why. Usually there are less people on Fridays but I've been here less than two weeks, so what do I know?!

I was looking around at people as I normally do and all the clothes (my God the fashion!) and I see these two people holding hands and looking at each other.One is sitting in a seat looking up at the other, eyes wide and smiling with teeth, holding their hand. The standing one looking down with crinkly eyes and a smile all the way in the corner of their cheek, speaking softly and rubbing their thumb over the others hand. It was so lovely, so beautiful, and I was like "what the fuck is this?" I hate feelings. I don't like having emotions about romance because they get in the way of getting shit done.

I've had very few interactions with New Yorkers but this one stood out. Scenario: Laying in the grass looking out at the Statue of Liberty talking about life with Candace and one of her friends. Talking about relationships past and present and one of them busts out with "you have a broken heart."

But do I? I think of a broken heart in the crying, feeling disassociated from my life, and all around miserable kind of way. Is there a way that lingers? That makes you not want to be in a relationship with anyone? I don't feel scared, I feel contemptuous of relationships. Maybe it's time for some self-reflection.

Either way, I can't assign this heartbreak (if that is indeed what it is) to any one person. I think it's a cumulative heartbreak with everything. Sweeping generalizations are my specialty, but here me out. In the last year and a half I have ended a very long-term relationship, almost fell in love with someone who was mentally ill, and dated multiple disappointments. Disappointments seems harsh, but they were like flat warm soda on a hot day. I also fell out of love with my home state, which at one time I did love very dearly. I loved California so much at one time, I disparaged every other state, including Hawaii!! But I don't love it anymore, maybe because it's changing, maybe because of the drought, maybe because I needed to fall out of love to grow as a person, I don't know. Either way, it happened and I'm here.

I hope New York helps me get through some things. It's stupid to think I wont be different from this experience, even if I packed my bags and left tomorrow, I would be different. I've never thought of myself as a romantic although I am a poet. Maybe this very famous town will make one out of me and I can rejoin the human race, and get some good poetry out of it. It's hard to think that I've been hardened by The Bay and looking to soften in New York, but I've always been full of contradictions. It's goes along with being a triple Gemini, look it up.

Sync-in

Holy hell! It's fucking hot in New York. I know people say that but it is hot, hot, hot, HOT. Although, currently I'm enjoying the wifi and air conditioning in my office because I bought my computer with me to use in a cafe near by. Since Candace is working late and most people are out of the office, I'm pretending I'm working late to write this blog. It makes me feel like I have some important secret business, and actually, what's more important than my readers? reader?

I feel like I'm starting to really get into the swing of things.  I'm almost done setting up my desktop stuff and whatnot. I know how to get somewhat around on my own. I also have food at Candace's house to eat. I made myself pre-cut food for the next few meals so I wouldn't have to turn the stove on again for a while because, did I mention it's hot? I was up 'till midnight cooking and chopping and sweating. I finally understand what people mean when they say "slaving over a hot stove" because in CA it only gets that hot a few days a year and you can just order pizza or eat sandwiches. The news says this is a heat wave so that makes me feel that maybe this wave will pass, although I'm not counting on it. I always heard in the movies that August is a very hot month in New York and in the Great Gatsby when they all get loaded I seem to remember people sweating a lot. I'm trying to convince myself that this is a free sauna and I'm actually in a giant spa.

Today I'm most excited about getting stamps! I can finally write letters. Although, we don't have a key to our mailbox so I can't really receive letters, I like to write them all the same. I don't have the arsenal of stationery here that I do at home but I have some, and I get to buy more!! I love buying stationery or making it as the case maybe. Things like that are superfluous so I have to be thrifty and creative. I'm generally pretty good at both those things so we shall see.

I'd like to get more active here. I signed up for the free pool and Candace has a big backyard area so maybe I will do some yoga out there or something. I don't have a yoga mat but I can get one at Marshall's or Ross or something for pretty cheap. That's where my first one came from! I also like that I haven't really been drinking. I'm an "opportunistic drinker" which actually means "I don't want to pay for that shit." I don't really care about drinking so it's been pretty chill. I'm eating a lot healthier here because I don't have the money to eat out, so I hope that will help me stay strong and healthy. More than anything I want to stay healthy because I CAN NOT afford to be sick. I really want to be able to afford a place to live and it's rough out here. Definitely doable but hella hard.

whirlwind

Ever since I landed I've been moving. The day after I arrived I started my new job and was in such a stupor I've almost totally forgotten about it.

Work is hard but I feel like in getting the hang of it, and I've never been afraid of hard work. This is really pushing me to be my most professional. Professionalism means something totally different in New York than it does in San Feancisco and I'm definitely feeling the culture clash. I'm relying heavily on Candace who is being so kind and generous but she is just so busy. She works around the clock literally. She goes to work and works and works, and come home and works and works. I'm trying to keep up and do my best, I just want to come off as polished and I'm not sure that I'm succeeding. My new motto is "don't let 'em see you sweat."

After a major pep talk from Candace last night I walked into the office today and tried to pretend like I've known everyone for the last 5 years, but people are taken aback a bit when I say "it's all good" and "cool." It's the details, details, details to remember, always being on my game, ironing my clothes, taking out piercings, covering tattoos, polishing my shoes. It's the corporate America I've watched movies about and I got one show for impressions. People do seen laid back with each other but I'm still feeling out my boundaries.

Honestly, the toughest part has been being without wi-fi. I just ran out of the office to pick up my shoes from being repaired/polished and found this little hole in the wall french cafe with wifi. I'm moving in. They open at 7:30 and I plan on being here on the dot to try and get some blogging in. Now that I'm here and wifi is hard to come by this is going to be my lifeline to my dear ones out in California.

There are so many people I miss. Mostly my family and besties. I haven't really had time to think about it too much but for the first few days it was rough to talk to my mom because I would burst into tears. The first few days were a weird dream. Candace has her head in the business and I'm sort of wandering through this big city. I love the energy but I feel dizzy trying to figure stuff out.

So far I found: the post office, the trader joes, the bus line to Chris' house, a shoe repair, and I signed up for the public pool (which was free!).

There have been some magical moments. There's tons of those puffy seeds floating in the wind through out the city. When I was a kid I used to catch them, wish on them and blow them into the wind. I feel like they're reminders of just how hard I wished for this. And there's fireflies in the park. Not that many but enough to feel like there's a little magic in the air.

Landing

It's 2 AM here and mostly I just want to sleep. I'm having a lot of feelings so far about New York. I'm happy to be here with Candace and stoked to live on top of a pizza place. Also, we have roof access/ a deck. Pretty sweet.

I almost cried a bunch of times. When I saw my grandpa, when I got through security and realized that was the last time I was going to see my parents for the next few months. When I got on the plane and took off. Right now.

I dunno. I'm trying to be excited and part of me is. I know I'm ready for the next thing but I already miss them so much. At least I brought my little shark with me for cuddles.

Good night.